How to Love Others Deeply From The Heart And Live In Harmony With Them
Love, Compassion, and Kindness are some of the most valued attributes any Christian should live by. But how often have you heard people say, “You need to learn to love others more” or “Be kinder and show compassion”? Do these words sound like a broken record that has no end? We live in a world filled with hate, anger, stress, anxiety, and other negative attributes. Even as Christians, we battle with our own demons and weaknesses daily. Often this comes out in various ways, such as judging or gossiping about someone else. As leaders, we must understand what traits we should develop, not just for ourselves but so we can also be influential ministry leaders for the people around us. Follow these steps to help you love others deeply from the heart and live in harmony with them.
Finally, all of you should be of one mind. Sympathize with each other. Love each other as brothers and sisters. Be tenderhearted, and keep a humble attitude. Don’t repay evil for evil. Don’t retaliate with insults when people insult you. Instead, pay them back with a blessing. That is what God has called you to do, and he will grant you his blessing.
1 Peter 3:8–9
Commit yourself to developing your love of others continually.
Love is the most potent force in the world. To truly experience abundant life, you must learn to love deeply and unconditionally. This will force you to drop your ego, remove your expectations and open yourself up to new possibilities. Love is not what you say or do for someone; it’s what you feel in your heart for them. Love is not a feeling; it’s a decision.
Develop a genuine love for people without conditions
One sure way to keep your love from maturing is to keep conditions on it. You must be willing to love everyone, including those who try to hurt you. You must love people who criticize you and those who misunderstand you. You must love people who are ungrateful and even those who are unkind to you. You must love people who are indifferent to you. You must love people who don’t like you. You must love people who wrong you and even those who wrong you. There is one and only one condition to loving people, and that is that they are human beings. If you let your heart go out to them, no matter who they are or what they do, then your love will mature and you will discover a new power and authority you have never known before.
Decide to be the one who brings peace and harmony rather than conflict and stress.
When you choose to be the one who brings peace, you will be at peace. When you decide to be the one who brings harmony, you will be in harmony. When you choose to be the one who brings solutions, you will be a solution. When you decide to be the one who brings love, you will never be at hate. When you choose to be the one who brings forgiveness, you will never be at resentment. When you decide to be the one who brings hope, you will never be in despair. When you choose to be the one who brings solutions, you will never be at the problem. When you decide to be the one who brings faith, you will never be in doubt.
Determine that you will not allow yourself to be offended or upset by anything anyone else does or says.
You can only give away what you have inside of you. If you have a lot of hurt, anger, resentment, and other negative emotions inside of you, that is what you will give away to others. If you allow these negative emotions to stay inside of you, you will eventually give them out. If you want to be healthy inside, you must be willing to be honest with yourself. You must be willing to examine your feelings and remove any resentment, bitterness and anger from your heart. You must be willing to forgive those who have hurt you in the past. You must be willing to let go of all the emotional hurts, pains, and wrongs that have been done to you. You will eventually poison your soul if you do not let these negative emotions go. You will end up with a bitter, sour, and resentful heart. You must be willing to let these negative emotions go and be honest with yourself. You must be willing to be truthful with yourself, even when it is difficult.
Resolve in advance that no matter what happens, you will not respond in the same negative way someone has responded to you.
If someone offends you, you are under no obligation to defend yourself or explain yourself. You are only obligated to ensure that you do not retaliate, get upset, or respond in a hurtful way. You can let the person know that you are willing to discuss the matter at another time but do not wish to discuss it now. You can let the person know you appreciate his opinion, but you are unwilling to discuss it now. You can let the person know you appreciate his advice, but you are reluctant to take it now. You can let the person know you understand his criticism, but you are unwilling to accept it now. You can let the person know that you appreciate her feelings but you are reluctant to discuss them now. You can let the person know that you appreciate all she has done for you in the past, but you do not wish for her to do it now. You can let the person know that you appreciate what she is trying to do for you but that you do not wish for her to do it now.
Re-commit yourself daily to develop your love for others and your ability to live in harmony with them.
As you begin to practice these daily, you will find yourself more at peace with yourself and others. Your relationships will also improve as you learn to be more loving, patient, and forgiving with those around you. You will find that everyone you come in contact with will be better off because you are around them. You will find that your life is more fulfilling when you learn to love others deeply and live in harmony with them.
Simply be yourself, be a light and live in harmony with others
At the end of the day, you are unique, and no one else is like you on this planet. You were put here to be a light, not to fit in. Be yourself, and don’t try to be like someone else. If someone dislikes your personality, they don’t have to be around you. Everyone on this planet has something valuable to offer. Each individual is a light and has the ability to touch the lives of others. Some may not realize it, but they have the power to change someone else’s life for the better. Simply be yourself, be a light, and live in harmony with others.
Takeaway
The best way to love someone is to let them know how you feel about them, not what you think about them. Love is the ability to make someone else feel special and important even when you don’t feel like it. It is being compassionate with others even when you don’t feel like it. At the end of the day, loving others deeply is not a skill that can be learned in a day. It is a continuous journey in which you will be challenged and tested. Remember, love is a decision. It takes time, energy, and effort to love others truly. If you struggle to love others, take a step back and examine your heart. Are you in a place where you can love others? Do you have resentment, bitterness, and anger in your heart? If so, you must decide to cleanse your heart. It would be best if you made the decision to forgive those who have hurt you in the past. It would be best if you made the decision to let go of the negative emotions that are controlling you.
